A disturbed mind is the house of conflict and rash
decisions. And many a times the vent-out takes place in a wrong place at a
wrong time — leading to a verbal war and sometimes physical too. But is waging
war the solution?
Joseph Heller once said — Success and failure are both difficult to endure; along with success come
drugs, divorce, fornication, bullying, travel, meditation, medication, depression,
neurosis and suicide. With failure comes failure. However, Heller's
perception of success and failure will not ring in true for the one who can
control the mind.
Serenity could be hard to find amid the din, but it's the
same din that one aspires to be a part of under the veil of making it big. Such
aspirations know no bound — from achieving that top position with a hefty pay,
or building one's entrepreneurial stint big for the world to recognize, to
being the ideal parent to one's child or the best spouse for the better half. And
on this journey of ambition, there comes frustration when unexpected curve
balls come pouncing. Manipulations, failures, stress, recession, heartbreak,
bad boss, boredom, lack of money, failed marriage, illness, troubled children,
death, sadness, or fears — the rough patches on the road could be in any form. Many
a times, instead of crossing the patches carefully one submits and digs deeper
into them; thus the patches materialize into concrete problems. So, to keep
oneself out of the habit of digging is a matter of one's mind.
Experts emphasize on having the right approach to express
one's anxiety-filled emotions to keep the mind calm. Because often it is
witnessed that one takes up destructive methods causing harm to oneself and the
surroundings as a whole. As a positive effort some paint, some run, some read,
and some even throw as many rags as they can in a dustbin. But the most
effective as experts claim is to write a letter venting out all of the emotions
in a paper and finally crumbling it and throwing it away, never to be found
again. Or even best if one burns it up as researchers claim that the negativity
burns away along with it.
However, mere doing of an action will not help unless one
truly associates the action to train one's subconscious not to get obsessed
with negative thoughts. The only remarkable and factual solution against
negativity is to train one's mind positively. If negative thoughts are blocked
forcibly, they become worse. They need not be blocked but one must very calmly respond to
them with positivity and observe the magnitude of the negative thoughts being
depleted gradually.
Perseverance to make one's mind stay put despite troubles is
all it takes to get the desired result, as a positive mind amidst all
negativity is the key to success.
